I need help remembering the name of a book.

-I think it was set in Appalachia

-Opens with women in family/neighborhood bleaching a young girl’s hair

-Main character friends with neighbor girl

-father figure dying of cancer and secluded to front room of house

-Main character sexually assaulted by relative in an outbuilding/woodshed, but doesn’t remember it until years later

-Main character wins a beauty pageant and is awarded luggage

-Main character leaves home for many years only to return in adulthood to stay and teach

Thanks!